Your partner

You may have a boyfriend of girlfriend, be living with a partner or be married. Whatever your situation, your cancer is likely to affect this relationship and lead to your partner feeling many different emotions.

Your partner is unlikely to receive the level of support you receive, which can make them feel alone. They may also have lots of things to take care of, putting them under lots of pressure.

How do I cope with changes to my relationship?

Although there is no right way to cope with the stress put on your relationship, talking to each other about your feelings and what the future may hold can be helpful. You could do this face-to-face, over the phone or even using email, whatever works for the two of you. Sometimes, though, you may find this difficult because of your situation and the stress it causes. Don't worry, this is understandable.

You and your partner may find it easier to speak to family or friends about how you're feeling. Or it may help to speak to a member of your care team for support. They could speak to you together or separately.

Ultimately, all of us have different ways of coping and cancer will affect every relationship differently. Sometimes, because of the huge impact cancer has on people's lives, some relationships will end. But it's also true that many grow stronger. And some relationships will start again and flourish after they've been put on hold.

What support is available for my partner?

If your partner becomes your carer during your illness, they may be entitled to financial support. Go to the Financial support section for more information about this.

Your partner might also want to check out some of these organisations for emotional support, or talk to a member of your care team.

Content last reviewed: November 2015
Next planned review: 2016