Returning to school

Many children return to school during or after treatment without any problems. But it can sometimes be difficult. This often depends on age, if they've been away from school for some time, and how they felt about school before they were diagnosed.

Below are some of the issues that may affect your child when they return to school and guidance on how you can help address them.

Changes in physical appearance

  • Some children and young people feel anxious about changes in physical appearance. It can help if they've seen close friends before going back to school. These friends then know how they look and can understand some of the reasons why.
  • Most schools allow pupils who are being treated for cancer to wear clothing or headgear outside of school regulations, but make sure you check with the school first.

Tiredness and physical limitations

  • When your child first returns to school it can help if hours are flexible so that they don't do full days or can takes rest breaks. If your child prefers to stay inside at break time, most schools let a friend stay with them for company. Tell the school about any treatment that might affect concentration and memory.
  • Getting around school can be a worry for older children at large secondary schools in particular. The school can give your child a card to allow them to leave class early and miss the rush between lessons, or at lunchtime.
  • Some pupils may not want to be left out during PE lessons. Your child could join in for part of the lesson or take part in a different way e.g. as referee, scorer, but they may prefer to catch up on work for other subjects instead.

My school made it so much easier. They swapped classes for me so I wouldn't have to walk so far.

Difficult emotions

  • Your child's school and family life may have been disrupted over many months. If you feel that your child is developing anxious behaviours talk to the school, or your CLIC Sargent Social Worker or outreach nurse, to help you arrange support for you and your child.
  • Your child may find being separated from you harder than they expect. You may need to 'push' them back to school initially, which can be difficult. Sometimes a professional involved in your child's care is the best person to talk to about this.
  • You might also find it difficult. You may miss your child when they return to school and/or have concerns about their safety. It's only natural to have protective feelings when you've been through so much. Good communication and planning with the school can help. You can also speak to your CLIC Sargent Social Worker for support.

My school changed timetables so I had all my favourite teachers. Seeing them made me want to go to lessons.

Falling behind with work

  • Falling behind with work can worry children and young people. This is especially the case for older children doing exam courses. Sometimes younger children may be more worried than they say. School staff should be able to help reassure them and, if necessary, arrange extra teaching or support.
  • If older children have missed a lot of school sometimes it can seem logical to repeat a year. However this is generally considered a bad idea by education professionals as it isolates the pupil from their peers.
  • A better solution may be for your child to continue in their normal year group but repeat elements of work they've missed. If repeating a year is the only way your child feels they can complete the work and exams they want to do, then it may be worth discussing the pros and cons with the school.

Bullying

  • Your child's school should have an anti-bullying policy, but if you have any serious concerns you should talk to the school immediately.
  • It's helpful if there is a 'key' adult at school that your child can go to if they're upset or finding school difficult. You should also have a 'plan B' person for times when this key adult isn't available.
  • Find information for teachers about talking to pupils in a class where a child or young person has been diagnosed with cancer.

Siblings

  • If you have other children, remind their school that they are also going through a difficult time. Siblings at the same school are often asked 'how is x doing?', which can be stressful for them.
  • If siblings are at another school your social worker, outreach nurse or the school where your child who is having treatment attends can usually liaise with the sibling's school for you.
  • Find more information for schools and teachers on how to support pupils with cancer.

A guide for schools

It's important to work with the school and your child's class teacher to ensure that friends at school understand how your child’s cancer has affected them. Find more information for how teachers can help.

Content reviewed November 2015, next planned review 2016.

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