Family worries

In this video, Sadia talks about how her leukaemia diagnosis affected her family, and how her relationship with her brother and sisters changed.

Your questions

I feel angry that I have cancer and I’m taking it out on my family. Why am I doing this? 

Lesley Nicol, a CLIC Sargent Social Worker, says: 

It’s horrible being unwell, and it’s easy to take that out on your family. But try to remember that your cancer isn’t anyone’s fault. Talking about how you feel can help, so be open with your family and let them know if you’re feeling angry, worried or fed up.

I worry a lot about upsetting my family when I’m not feeling well. What can I do? 

Lesley Nicol, a CLIC Sargent Social Worker, says: 

If you’re worried about upsetting your parents, you might not want to tell them if you’re feeling unwell, sad or scared. Do try to though - they may be able to help you. If you prefer, you could talk to another grown-up you trust instead, or somebody from your CLIC Sargent care team.

Why have my parents gone back to treating me like a little kid since my cancer diagnosis? 

Lesley Nicol, a CLIC Sargent Social Worker, says: 

It’s natural for your parents to want to protect you when you’re unwell. It can be a bit annoying though! If you’re feeling frustrated, remind them that you’re still you. You could suggest some little things you could do for yourself, like making your own breakfast or going to a friend’s house. Chat to somebody from your CLIC Sargent care team - they can help you work out what you can and can’t do so your parents can give you a bit more independence.

Last reviewed: September 2015
Next planned review: 2018

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