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Home > About childhood cancer > For young people >“I’m scared I’ll lose my mates”
If you’re not around, you may feel you’re missing out. Your friends may be out shopping, playing football, planning parties and not inviting you. Do you think they’re going behind your back?
They’re more likely to be worried about upsetting you, feeling guilty that they’re able to do those things, and concerned for your health.
Take the initiative and come up with ways to stay in touch. Invite them round, download msn messenger or log on to the hospital computer to chat with friends, any time of day. Send text, emails – even a letter! Invite them to the hospital, but warn them what to expect.
Don’t worry about losing friends – because you’ll make lots more in hospital. People with the similar experiences, who understand completely.
Talk to others around the country through online message board and discussion forums. Give each other advice, share tips and keep each other smiling.
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If you are seeing someone, lots of things may be running through your mind: will they dump you now you’re ill? Are they only sticking around because they’re sorry for you? Are you unattractive now? Can they give you the support you need?
The only way to find out is to have an honest conversation with them, to say how you feel, and to ask them how they feel. You may not get the response you want, but hopefully it’ll be a good place to start communicating.
If you don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend when you start treatment, when and how to tell new people about your cancer may be on your mind. How will they react? Will it put them off? Have you been ill for so long you’ve forgotten how to talk to someone you fancy?
All you can do is give it a go. If they don’t understand, maybe they’re not right for you anyway?
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