Bereavement

Coping with emotions

People react to the death of a child in many different ways. They also express their grief in different ways. There is no right or wrong way, just someone’s own way. Grief is a natural process and a personal response to losing a child. Some people may find it easy to cry, others can’t. Some people like to remain busy, while others prefer to be alone. Bear in mind that each family member may grieve differently.

Talking to other people

Some parents find it painful to face other people at first. No one really understands what you’re feeling. But many people will want to help and support you. Parents in this situation often find it helps to follow their own instincts and feelings, rather than be steered by others (however kind their intentions).

Supporting other children

Just like adults, children cope with death in different ways. For instance, at first a child may appear to be coping very well with the death of their sibling. It may be months or even years until it becomes clear they need support.

Some parents like to involve other family members or friends in supporting their children. CLIC Sargent care professionals can help too, by visiting families at home or by going into a sibling’s school to offer support.

Other family and friends

Grandparents, wider relatives and close friends will be grieving too, not just for the child but also for their parents and siblings. They may find it helpful to ask the hospital and CLIC Sargent care professionals about how to offer the right kind of help and support, as well as how to cope with their own feelings.

There are further resources available to help all members of the family and friends. Call our Child Cancer Helpline on 0800 197 0068 or order them online here.